About Me

What If They Think It's A Mid-Life Crisis?

Once the last of my three boys had grown and left home, I found myself oddly gripped with fear. Afraid to make the smallest step outside the same path in which I had stepped for so many years. Afraid of letting go of the way I had kept my home, kept my yard, kept my finances, related to others, and related to myself. Afraid I would be perceived as being irresponsible, selfish, a bad mother, a bad wife, a bad grandmother, a bad friend. Afraid of being thought of as having a mid-life crisis.

Frozen By Fear

I was frozen. Frozen in place by fear. And all I was trying to do was pack a carry-on bag for a solo trip to Palm Springs, California. All I wanted was to find sunshine and warmth where I could hike, walk, relax, reflect, journal, and most of all, temporarily escape the dreary winter weather of the Pacific Northwest.

After several hours ruminating, mindlessly walking around the house, standing in front of an open refrigerator door eating whatever I could find to soothe myself, and resisting that urge for a glass of Malbec, I managed to get a bag packed and walk out the door.

Adventure - Good Medicine For Fear

I have a personalized form of adventure that helps me feel strong and eases fear. For me, adventure does not have to include travel or anything spectacular. It can be in the form of learning something new, having a meaningful project to look forward to, exploring a unique town, listening to an Audible book, or watching a program that challenges my thinking.

The Backstory

I was fairly independent-minded by the age of 14 and by my mid 20’s was a single mom striving for a better life for myself and my son. I had been hired by a growing corporation and took full advantage of the company’s education reimbursement program taking all the accounting courses offered and completing a bachelor’s degree in business administration, all while re-marrying and having 2 more sons.

In the fall of 2019, the last of my sons had left home and all three boys were independently developing their lives and beautifully focusing on their families. ALL I had dreamed of and worked toward as a mom.

I thought having time and energy to go back to work where I could feel the satisfaction of being on a team and receive a regular paycheck would feel like a well-earned reward, a gift, the big door prize. It did not. I had the time and the ability to get back in with a company that offered a 401k match where I could make up for the 20 years I had not contributed to my retirement fund.

I decided to venture out and into the hurricane of women’s groups to try to find others who were in a similar position as me, who could hear my truths and respect my vulnerabilities, who could help me find my inner compass and find some clarity.

It took some time but I did find a tribe, fluid as it was. I found women who had faced their own fear and had chosen to pivot and carve out their own unique way, women who were willing to give me hard feedback and accept my experience and feedback as well, women who strengthen and inspire me. I became stronger. We are stronger together.

“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.” – Fyodor Dostoevsky

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